On Entitlement

School sign on blur traffic road background.

Ah, the kiss & ride.

Could there be a more stressful way to start your day than to participate in your local school’s kiss & ride?  I don’t think so.

It is hell.

All encompassing, rip your hair out, hell on wheels.

And sadly, it is reflective of our society as a whole.

Here’s why.

We are in the age of entitlement.  Unfortunately, it’s not just today’s children that feel they are entitled.  Their parents are proudly paving the path to entitlement.

Somewhere over the last decade, our society has changed.  There has been a dynamic shift in what is acceptable from a behavioural perspective.

Somewhere along the lines, common courtesy and good character have been thrown to the wayside and replaced with rage, annoyance, disrespect and entitlement.

Per the Merriam-Webster dictionary, entitlement is defined as,

the condition of having a right to have, do, or get something;

the feeling or belief that you deserve to be given something (such as special privileges)

Which brings us back to the kiss & ride;  the proof in our day to day lives that our society has lost its bearings.

There are civil rules, hell, there are laws, in the kiss & ride.  For example,

Do not park in the fire route. Do not leave your car.

Do not leave your car running. Yield to pedestrians.

Use common sense (especially challenging for many people).

This does not happen.  Ever.  Instead, there are cars abandoned everywhere, blocking fire routes and blocking other cars.  Blocking the driveway.  Children don’t know where it is safe to cross so they can be seen dangerously running about traffic searching for their parents.  Crossing guards, bless their souls, are frantically trying to maintain order amidst chaos while being sworn at or ignored altogether.

The message being sent is loud and clear.

I am here for my child.  I do not care why you are here.  The only thing that matters is that I get my child.  I do not care if I have to run yours over to get to mine.  If I have to speed down the street to ensure I am there on time.  If I have to give you the finger, yell at you in the driveway or break the law.  I am entitled to get what I want, when I want it and I want to get my child right now. 

If everyone took a step back, demonstrated patience, showed respect for others, we would all be able to pick our children up from school in a safe and orderly fashion.

When did your sense of entitlement become more important than the safety of all other children?

Why does your rush to get somewhere threaten our entire neighbourhood’s safety?

There is a disturbing parallel.  This age of entitlement coincides with an increase in bullying and behavioural issues in schools.

According to the Canadian Institutes of Health Research,

1 in 3 adolescents reported being bullied recently.

47% of Canadian parents reported their child has been a victim of bullying.

40% of working Canadians reported being bullied on a weekly basis.

How can we put an end to bullying when adults continue to exhibit such bold disobedience of societal norms and expectations?

We, the adults, are responsible for guiding our children and teaching them that societal norms matter and that disobedience of societal norms and values will not be tolerated.  But this disobedience continues to be tolerated!

Why?

It circles back to this sense of entitlement.

Some 21st century parents have lost their good character, their respect for others, their rational thought.  There is an urgency driven by check lists and extra curriculars; by responsibilities and stress;  by family dynamics that appear to no longer foster respect, patience and tolerance.

These parents will do anything they can to check something off their list, to move onto the next task.  At any cost.  Even at the cost of your child’s safety. There just isn’t time, in their minds, to be cautious or slow;  there is too much to do.

Is that it?  Is it that this world we are living in is so demanding and moving at such a fast pace that there just isn’t time to think of others; to slow down, to show respect for humanity as a whole?  It is the me generation.  Me, me, me.

As a result, our children are growing up in an environment where they are taught to put their needs first and to do so at any cost.  We are creating a generation that will grow up to be dependent, selfish individuals.  No collective reasoning.  No actions to support the greater good (look at vaccinations, don’t get me started).  A worldview that no longer considers the world.  A very narrow view of self and their immediate surroundings.

We have to get off this road to entitlement.

It is critical that our children are taught the societal norms and values that ensure the day to day functioning of our world.

Who is going to do this?

It starts with you.

It starts at home.

It starts in the kiss & ride.

 

© The Flip of the Switch, January 2016.

9 thoughts on “On Entitlement”

  1. Fabulous post. I experience the same thing all the time in my town. I even watched a grown man drop off his student, and then get irrationally irritated with the parent whose car was directly in front of his because that child was having a tough time getting out of the car with a musical instrument. He blared on his horn obnoxiously and then sped around the car and drove off in a huff. Jerko. I loved every word you said in this post. Brava!

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  2. The bloody kiss & ride. In the morning, it’s great. Everyone wants to throw their kids at the school gate and leave. It flows smoothly. There is one stupid woman who every single day parks her car JUST out of the kiss and ride, on the crossing, but she is always late so doesn’t interfere with much except my personal sense of justice. The afternoon is a nightmare. I don’t use the kiss and ride in the afternoon because I go in to pick up my girls but there are always unattended cars parked there and one mother who thinks it’s ok because she goes in and leaves her teenager in the car so it doesn’t count as being unattended. FFS.

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  3. “Is it that this world we are living in is so demanding and moving at such a fast pace that there just isn’t time to think of others…” That’s a very interesting question. I’ve never thought about that. This was a great post!

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  4. This post and the comments has been great therapy. It is a really sad reflection on parents, seemingly around the globe, that they are such lousy role models. How can we expect a kid to be courteous and look out for their peers when their parents are prepared to run over anybody else’s kid and possibly even their own.
    I have a disabled parking permit and and the number of people who park in these spots without a permit staggers me. i’ve become quite forthright now and pull up beside them and ask them to move. There’s this one car who moved straight out of the disabled spot into the bus zone and the driver made a comment to the deputy head. We’ve had parents park where the buses are due to pull up from school excursions where kids are loaded up with gear and park in the bus spot. This is for parents whose kids have been at the school for 7 years…not the first day!
    Anyway, I guess these @#$% drivers have been good role models in a sense for my kids who are developing a good idea about not breaking rules, even for a fleeting couple of minutes.
    I also appreciate how you’ve taken up the fight against this sense of entitlement in this post. Wjhen I was a kid, we had to save up to earn things. Most of us had little. MYkids, and my husband and I as well have way too much stuff.
    We are also told that we can be anything we want. Be anything we want to be rather than having our calling, or path and trying to find that and become the person we were meant to be without forcing things. I just stumbled across that myself this week and it’s really changed my thinking. We are all better off working with who we are rather than fighting against it.
    By the way, have you heard about a blogging group called 1000 Voices for Compassion? I think you’d love it. Here’s a link to my most recent post which will link you to the group. I find it sooo inspirational! xx Rowena

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    1. You are so right! At least these people have shown our children how NOT to behave! I am appalled that someone has been parking in the disabled parking spot! That is unbelievable! Good for you for standing your ground! Thanks for sharing the information on the 1000 Voices for Compassion, I will check it out. Have a great weekend!

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